Parents/Gaurdians

Parents are encouraged to become excellent models for their children, so it is important they pay attention to their general behaviour. The following are some tips that may assist in this regard.

Parents should show that they value the freedom to think and act independently. Never give the impression that you are doing something because “everyone is doing it”.

This allows the child to understand that unwarranted pressure can and should be ignored.

Be consistent in your words and actions e.g. a phone call interrupts your dinner and you say, “Tell them I’m not home yet”. This type of behaviour sends the message that it is okay for one to be dishonest for their convenience.

Demonstrate respect for the child by being a good listener and showing concern. Show sincerity – ask questions and a gentle touch or a concerned look will ensure encouragement.

Exercise a sense of self- respect and healthy self- esteem. This can be done by making productive use of free time in something worthwhile like exercising and remaining healthy instead of being a “couch potato’’.

Do not appear to be overusing over the counter medicines as quick fixes for pain or stress as this may give the wrong impression that chemicals can cure all discomfort.

Be conscious of the use/ abuse of alcohol as this may have undue influence on the children. Children are very perceptive and will notice how much and why a parent(s) drinks. Parents should avoid making excuses for drinking (like having a rough day). There is a strong possibility that children will copy the drinking patterns of parents when they grow up.

Parents should speak honestly about stress and conflict in their lives. Children need to appreciate that such challenges are a normal part of life and can be overcome without the use of alcohol or drugs.

Always be willing to speak to children particularly about changing ‘not so good’ habits, such as smoking or obesity. Let them know what works and what does not.

Show time spent with the children is something of value and one to look forward to. Showing one is tired or too busy may cause children to imitate this behaviour.

Parents should always show that they love and value all family members. Single Parent families can provide as much affection and support as two parent families although sometimes it may appear more difficult.